This particular topic has been beaten to death already, but I’m feeling the need to kick the horse a little more.  I still find it amazing how critical kinky people are of each other.  Why is that?  Yeah, people are judgemental of each other in general so why should being kinky change anything, but for some reason I actually thought that it would.  After all, we’re suppose to be the open minded ones. HA!!

The problem is tunnel vision.  They refuse to accept that there could actually be a way to “do” BDSM that is - Oh My God - different than the way they do it.  I wish these fucking idiots who have it all figured out and are the self proclaimed, end all, be all, way to do it “correctly” would write a fucking book already so the rest of us that are “wrong” all the damn time could learn to be judgemental fucktards too since that’s apparently the correct way to be. 

Maybe I’m completely wrong and it has nothing to do with their lack of vision.  Maybe it’s their insecurities and they feel like someone is going to point a finger at them and yell “Poser!” so to prevent that from happening they immediately go on the offense to cut others down first.  Hmmmm…..  Maybe I’m on to something here and insecure assholes are what we’re really dealing with.

Yeah, the old saying “opinions are like assholes because everyone’s got one” is true.  Opinions are one thing, I have my own opinions about some of the the things I’ve read on other blogs or heard about somewhere.  Having an opinion doesn’t make someone judgemental.  What’s makes someone an arrogant, judgemental, prick is trying to force your opinion of something down someone else’s throat like it’s the gospel truth and then when they disagree, they are “wrong”.

Blood sports.  Daddy and I are heavily into blood play and you wouldn’t believe how judged we’ve been for that.  To the people who have judged us and for all the future ones that will - a line from 311’s song “All Mixed Up” sums it up best, Fuck the naysayers cause they don’t mean a thing cause this is what style we bring.  When I tell some kinky people that I have a fetish for blood, I might as well say ”Hi, I’m a serial killer and I want you to be my next victim” because that’s what they hear.  I’m sure they’re thinking that we MUST be crazy because why would anyone want to play with blood?  Why would I want to be cut?  What does Daddy get out of cutting me and watching me bleed?  Why would I want to have my body permanently scarred like that?  What’s so fascinating about it?  If I had to answer any of those questions, I could never explain it enough to make them understand.  What REALLY threw a few people for a loop and even lost me a few readers, was when I said I wanted to bathe in human blood.  Yes, you read that correctly.  Bathe in human blood.  Thinking I’m a serial killer or crazy aren’t you? lol  Simply put - we love blood.  It’s our thing, it’s our kink, it’s who we are.  If it bothers you then click the red X in the upper right hand corner and leave because for a blood freak like me, the idea of being completely submerged in blood is the equivalent of heaven on earth.

Personally, I don’t give a shit how someone else lives or serves in their relationship.  If they’re happy with it how it is then who the hell am I too say it’s wrong?  I’m actually open-minded enough to know there are some view points out there that are totally different from my own.  How boring and mechanical would it be if we all thought and did the exact same things?

Maybe their judgements have nothing to do with what style of play you’re into.  Maybe it has more to do with protocols.  I call my Owner “Daddy” instead of “Master” so I guess to them I’m wrong.  After all, if you’re in a Master/slave relationship you absolutley MUST call him Master - that’s the ONLY correct way to be.  It doesn’t matter that it’s your own personal relationship that these fucktards aren’t even apart of.  You’re wrong because you’re doing something different and different is, of course, the wrong way to be.  They also believe they know the proper punishment technique - it has to be physical.  If the Master takes away the internet or makes her do push-ups, well, to them that’s just silly and not proper punishment at all!  If you sleep in a bed and not on the floor, someone will tell you you’re not a ”real” slave.  If you walk instead of crawl - not really a slave.  If you have kids - can’t possibly be a real slave because there is someone distracting you from your Master.  If you have a job - not really a slave then either because once again, it’s something distracting you from your Owner.  If you sit on the furniture instead of on the floor - not really a slave.  If you touch or speak to your Master without permission - not really a slave.  If you and your Owner love each other - that’s wrong because love will kill the dynamic.  If you eat off of a plate, while using silverware and sitting at a table - not really a slave because a real slave eats out of a dog bowl, using only her mouth, while kneeling at her Owner’s feet.  If you don’t type using the U/us, W/we, O/our crap then you aren’t a real slave because you aren’t showing a pronoun its proper respect.  If you have a brain that works and can actually think for yourself - not really a slave because to be a “true” slave you MUST be a mindless robot.  The age old debate over the definition of “sub” v/s “slave”.  If you have brown hair - not really a slave.  OK, that last one was just me being a bitch, but you get the point.  I think it’s up to the people IN the relationship to decide for themselves and not the know-it-alls.  That’s an OPINION.  I think it’s up to the Master to decide what’s best for his slave.  That’s an OPINION.  I think it’s up to the Master to decide if/when/where/how she does anything she does, not the fucking arrogant pricks who are delusional enough to believe they know what’s the universal way to be.  That’s an OPINION.  So, thank you judgemental moron for deciding what’s the proper way for me to be because I was under the impression that was MY DADDY’S job!!  What the hell was I thinking?? 

OK, OK, I’m getting all riled up…..best to end this rant now.